It is OK to cut toxic people out

In light of 2020 sort of being a turning point in many people’s lives and making them see what is really good for them and what has actually been negative for them, I write this post in hope to help people who are surrounded by people who make them feel bad, lower their standards and even self-worth to become strong enough to say “No, it is OK to cut these people off”.

Or more so distance yourself more from the relationship to avoid the pain and hurt.

It is not an easy journey you will be on, because it could be friends or family members that will be cut off. But I am not here to tell you who to cut off, in yourself you will know who are the culprits in your downfall and have a distinct gut feeling when you are around them to know this. So have a think and remind yourself you are great and if certain people cannot see your shine, let them go.

For me example with me, If I already feel like there is a pattern in a relationship friendship even family, I will cut them out. Not in the sense where I will be rude and tell them to F off because that is not my personality unless the action was truly horrendous. I will still be polite enough when I see them in public to greet but as from the moment I realize the relationship is not good for me, I will cut it off because you need people who are going to make you happy and bring you up. Someone who cannot take criticism and move on without an argument or tell you you’re not good enough at something are people who don’t care too much for your well-being.

The reality is that the percentage of people pretend to be adults when a simple conversation can’t be held if there is an issue. Can we not talk about a problem rather than backbiting, or ghosting each other?

I love the idea of a “real friendship” the ones you see on television. The fights happen and sometimes truths are told but they always become friends again even if they don’t talk for a month or two. They learn to realize that whatever happened was a truth not to hurt the other person but to maybe make them see something in their eyes as a friend that needed to be addressed.

Does understanding a person’s life and their individual flaws not only make them human and you human? Everyone in this life is going through some type of problem and we all need people who are positive enough and believing enough to support us. So let us take a step back if we cannot talk out a problem to a friend or family member for them to see the hurt they cause us, to rather say maybe it’s time to distance our relationship and maybe even one day save the relationship with real talk and un-hurtful conversations when the time is right.

Self-doubt is contagious – so be careful of who you spend your time with.

How to talk to your kids about Covid-19

The Coronavirus officially named Covid-19 is a flu like virus spreading throughout the world. (Keep up with the latest statistics here).

The main preventatives are to stay away from sick people who show signs of flu, upkeeping daily cleanliness by washing your hands for atleast 20 secondskeeping fingers away from eyes and mouths, you must also try to keep your health up by increasing vitamin C and immune system boosters.

Things we can do to help the prevention:

  • Washing your hands with soap for at least 20 seconds especially after using the bathroom, blowing your nose or coughing. Use alcohol-based sanitizer as an alternative if you cannot access soap and water.
  • Keep yourself and children away from anyone who is showing symptoms of flu.
  • If you plan on travelling abroad try to delay the plans and isolate yourself and kids as best you can for the next few weeks.

It is true we do not know the full scale of the virus but we must not take it lightly and expose ourselves uneccesarily to the outbreak as best we can.

Who is at risk?

  • From statistics released the virus seems to be affecting the elderly a lot more as well as people who are already suffering with a weaker immune system from diabetes, HIV & AIDS and other chronic illnesses. So far very few cases of young children have been reported.

Although this is information that has been released. Please do not think that you will be ok if you do not fall into this group. Rather keep taking precautions even if you feel you are healthy.

How to talk to your kids about Covid-19.

This talk could be difficult as you also have anxiety about the virus and the spread rate, but we also want to let our kids know about it to keep them aware and safe as best to our abilities as we can. We do not know where the virus will be in a few weeks/months so we should also prepare them for a certain amount of disrupt in their daily lives.

Try not to make your child feel as thought their fears are not important. We should try to recognize that they are little humans who are being exposed to so much in this world already and give them the space to let their emotions be exposed.

Explain what the virus is and then let them ask questions. This will give them the feeling of safety to know they can ask questions sometimes they will be afraid to ask.

Sharing the truth with your kids is the best thing to do in situations like these. We need to clear up any misconceptions they may have and give them all the important information to go forward with.

Let them know that there are people are out there working hard to fight this and keep them and everyone from getting sick. That’s why we need to keep clean and not be out and about too much. Sometimes kids need to be reminded of the reasons why they will not be able to do certain things like they normally do.

Lastly try not to let the media scare them too much. Keep the news channel off when they are around and don’t let the adult talk be too consistent surrounding the topic. Small kids do not know how to handle the stress of the situation and the information may be needed to be given in small doses. Spoil them with hugs and re-assure them with your presence this will go a long way to keep them calm.

Here is a printable pdf for you to share with your kids and let the conversation start surrounding this viral flu outbreak and ways we can keep the kids knowledgeable on the situation.

If you are looking for things to keep your children busy throughout the time they are at home. This was shared with me:

Online resources:

  • BrainPop
  • Curiosity Stream
  • Tynker
  • Outschool
  • Udemy
  • iReady
  • Beast Academy (Math)
  • Khan Academy
  • Creative Bug
  • Discovery Education

YouTube Channels:

  • Crash Course Kids
  • Science Channel
  • SciShow Kids
  • National Geographic Kids
  • Free School
  • Geography Focus
  • TheBrainScoop
  • SciShow
  • Kids Learning Tube
  • Geeek Gurl Diaries
  • Mike Likes Science
  • Science Max
  • SoulPancake

Lots of board games, library books (and Kindle), tinkering/upcycling with household junk, etc.

Some resources to help with kids at home:

*Scholastic has created a free learn-from-home site with 20+ days of learning and activities.

*Pretend to travel the world..Go on a virtual tour of these 12 famous museums.

*This is the awesome free curriculum that we use. Everything from preschool activities to 12th grade is here!

*List of thinking games by grade:

More awesome free learning websites that we like to use

Please feel free to share this with anyone who you think may benefit from this..

Keep clean and safe.